My 20 year old son is in student halls of residence and is looking for a flat for next year with 3 female friends...it would have to be with female friends because he has no male friends! We were talking about this fact and he said he just found females funnier, and he didn't find areas of common ground with males...they had nothing to say to him! Which seems very strange given that he is on an art course and surely has that in common with a number of males.
(....i suddenly feel like I am writing to a problem page!..)
Well he has never had a father figure...and when he was age one until he was five, i was in a relationship with a woman (...which is interesting in that at a time when I should traditionally be submerged in all kinds of domestic responsibility I managed to find a way of not exactly passing the buck, but sharing the buck! )
So during his most formative years he was learning how females operate and how to deal with them..but not males..
He has said that he is able to be a sympathetic ear for his female friends ..and that I have 'credit for that' because he learned how to deal with all my high drama!
I am really thinking about how much conversation relies on empathy..I found it interesting in last nights Art of Conversation session when we talked about how telling lies can be a necessary part of social engagement...especially when it is used as a way of finding common ground.
I am hoping that any kind of live work / performance that comes out of these sessions will allow for some fantasy and surrealistic interactions to take place..I think mobile phones and wires definitely have a role to play!
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